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Screensize: 640 x 480 800 x 600 1024 x 768 1280 x 1024 UserName: Password: Antispam question: How many total fingers does a human have? Answer: Format Mode: Basic  Help  Prompt  Format: Font Andale Mono Arial Arial Black Book Antiqua Century Gothic Comic Sans MS Courier New Georgia Impact Lucida Console Script MT Bold Stencil Tahoma Times New Roman Trebuchet MS Verdana   Size 1 2 3 4 5 6   Color Black Red Yellow Pink Green Orange Purple Blue Beige Brown Teal Navy Maroon LimeGreen Message: * HTML is OFF * Forum Code is ON Smilies [quote][i]Originally posted by PJK[/i] [br]Yep, I am THAT old. My husband and I are celebrating our 25th anniversary today. The weather is gorgeous, just like it was the day of our wedding. As I look back, it has been a road of "for better and for worse," but mostly for better. Who would think true love could be found in a pig barn? That's where we met, honest! I was working in agricultural research at the time and I had a safety study in swine, so I had to observe my sows for 2 hours in the morning and two hours in the afternoon to record any symptoms from the drugs I injected into them. My husband was the manager of the swine facilities. My sows would just sleep! So I would watch sleeping sows for 4 hours each day. (can you feel the excitement? sarcasm) I ended up watching my husband instead! LOL Anyway, thats how we met and became friends. I look back with happiness at the early days in our relationship when we spent most of our free time with each other. We would often pack a lunch or dinner and picnic in a small park in Princeton, NJ which just happened to be on a road called Lovers Lane. We would also take our canoe out on the nearby lake or just hang out at our friends places. Those were the days, carefree and wild. Our marriage produced two wonderful children who taught me what unconditional love was all about. There is nothing I wouldn't do for my kids. When they say you have to work at marriage, believe me its true. But in the 27 years we've known each other, we only had 2 major fights. The first was before we were married. We were questioning if we should get married or not. We both had our own apartment in the same complex so he went back to his apartment and we were going to think things over. After about 3 hours, most of which were spent crying, I called him and asked if he had thought about what we talked about. He said "Well, I started to and then I got hooked on this TV show." Well, I got so pissed I slammed the phone down and it popped off the wall! Didn't talk to him for days! The second fight happened after soon after we were married. He spent a night out with the boys and came home drunk as a skunk. I was awake but I pretended to be asleep when he came home. I heard him wretching. Then he came to bed. The aroma of vomit and beer was too much for me, so I decided to go into the living room to sleep on the cough. Well on my way I stepped in his vomit! Yep, he puked on our rug and didn't clean it up! Numerous times! I was again livid, and the worst part was, he was so out of it he slept right through my screaming! (which ofcourse made me even madder!) So, yes, marriage does indeed require work. My advice to those who are or want to get married some day, don't take your partner for granted. Don't get caught up in the daily activities that come with a family. Put your spouse first. Make time to be a couple. Somehow over the years my husband and I lost sight of each other and our needs as a couple. It happened so slowly that we didn't even realize what was happening. It almost ruined our marriage. Then I got cancer. Who would think something so devastating could save a marriage. Because I was so sick, there was no where to run. He stayed at my side every step of the way. It was him that I woke up to after my many surgeries. He took care of me at home and took over chores that I had done for years. And, we talked. A lot! He never complained. He was my rock. I can honestly say I love this man more now than I did 25 years ago. As many of you search for your soulmate let me tell you what true love is. The other night I burnt dinner, I mean as in the chicken was barely recognizable. While I was almost in tears about it, not only did my husband not complain, but he ate it with a smile! As if this wasn't enough, when I saw my reflection in a mirror I realized how awful I looked! I still wear a wig, but it is uncomfortable and I usually take it off the moment I get home. My real hair is growing back, but it is short, as in about an inch and a half long, and fuzzy and it was sticking out in every direction. I looked soooo bad, it was more than just a bad hair day, it was scary! Then I realized that my husband had not only eaten my burnt dinner, he never said one word about how bad I looked. When I realized this, I went into the living room and gave him a big hug and kiss! That my friends is true love! I hope all of you have the oportunity to experience true love in your lifetime. BTW we didn't buy each other presents, no need to. We are going out to dinner and maybe if we can work it out we will take a romantic vacation this summer, just the two of us.[:D] [/quote]   Check here to include your profile signature.